16 June 2008

I had my first therapy session today. I came prepared, and I talked nonstop...I wanted to make every moment count. I need help with my parenting skills, and I've found a counselor I think I really like. Emily saw her last week, and it might turn out that she's Emily's counselor. We'll see. I just know we need to fix some things here, and I need help.

I went to the same Panera's I lost my money at a few weeks ago. I even sat at the same table. How's that for a creature of habit? I had their summer corn soup and it was delicious. I came home and dead-headed just a few plants when it started raining. I had no idea they were calling for storms. I brought my book outside on the porch and read till the rain got in my way. Then it was into the house to continue. It was so nice to listen to the rain. I thought I'd try to take a nap. I never nap. Never ever. It just doesn't happen for me. It didn't happen today either, but I rested. When I was done, the sun was shining, much to my surprise, and the temperature had dropped. I had a quick salad, then was off to walk. And here I am, again, on the porch. The hummingbirds have been crazy. There's been three at a time on the feeders, but I don't think they like to share, because they fly away in twos. I have 3 feeders now, but the newest one is on the other side of my driveway and I can't see it from here. I'm not sure why I get so much pleasure out of seeing them at my feeders, but I do.

It seems quiet in blogland today. I'm caught up on my reading. Where are you all?


Ruth Hull Chatlien said...

I admire you for being honest enough and courageous enough to say, "I need help." I hope this counselor is a great fit for you (or for Emily if that's how it turns out). I'm not a parent, so you won't get any advice on that front from me, . . . but I will send you lots of good wishes and hugs.

Lena said...

A good therapist is a great thing. It is so good to have support and to see things from a different perspective.

Parenting is not easy for any of us. The teen years are so hard, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

All the hard work pays off as they mature! We all need to reach out for help from time to time.

I am excited for you and Emily, I know that working on relationships with my kids only brought us closer.

Hugs to you and Em!

Moohaa said...

Quiet is a good thing sometimes. I'm glad you found someone you can talk to. It's an important relationship to begin. Hugs!

Tory said...

I'm so glad you found a therapist you like as it can be very hard to find one you feel comfortable with. Some of them seem so unfriendly, you just can't open up to them.
I also love to watch the hummingbirds, (or any birds) at my feeder. I used to have tons of them at my old house and now that I live in an apartment, I really miss it. But up at our 'lovenest' we have a lot of birds and it seems like heaven in the quiet country away from the city, just listening to the birds or the rain.
Take care

Gin said...

A therapist is a great idea, they can really help with family problems.

I love corn soup and have been trying to find a recipe I can adjust to my diet. The trouble is, most of them have bacon and heavy cream in them. I guess I could use Canadian bacon and skim milk...LOL

I need to get to the store and get a few more hummer feeders. I have only two this year and I want them in lots of spots in the garden so we can watch them no matter where we're sitting. I just love watching them...they are so territorial and they fight like crazy, guarding their "personal" feeder.

Jay said...

I've considered going to a therapist a few times, but I'm just not up to it. Maybe I'll bring myself to do it someday.

Lone Grey Squirrel said...

I am sorry that you are facing problems. I think that it is not all that uncommon and getting help is being smart but in the end, I think you will always ultimately know what is best for you and your family. Guess what I am saying is that you should use all the help you can get but don't forget to listen to your heart.

bonnie said...

Wow, it just MUST be hummingbird season. HappyOne sees them too. I'm definitely filling my feeder today. I just didn't like the ants. I'm so glad you found a therapist. Will she see both of you or would that be a conflict? Is dead-heading when you nip off the dead flowers? I did that this morning. The rain helps my herbs grow without me having to remember to water them. Miss you, pup.

Jenny said...

I am unable to take care of any growing things. It's a wonder my kids made it to adulthood. I give God the credit for that. It is hot here for soup but your post reminded me of my potato-corn chowder and for some reason that just sounds so good! I may have to make some in the next day or two. Erica's boyfriend is coming to visit her and he loves ... of all things ... LIMA beans. I love them too but most 20-somethings don't ... so I guess I'll be cooking up some lima beans for dear Daniel.

marykay said...

I wish I had found a therapist when I went through my divorce, it was hard on me and harder on Meg. We still sometimes have unresolved issues due to sweeping things under the carpet. I am glad you found one you like, thats the hardest, Like my Mom always said "she did the best with what she had" Good Luck!

Annabel said...

I had never heard of Panera's until I started reading your blog. Now that I'm in Vegas, I've seen two of them. I may have to stop just to check it out!

Happyone said...

We all need help once in a while and it's the smart people who ask for help. It's good you found someone easy to talk to.

I see you are still walking - good for you!!

I was so happy to finally see some hummingbirds at my feeder too. I know what you mean - I love it when the birds are at my feeders too. :-)

Mary said...

Good news - the counselor seems to be a match. It's not always easy to find someone you can relate to and can relate to you.

I'm keeping my hummingbird feeder ready for visitors but so far we haven't had even one this year - at least not that we've seen. I think I was about a week late getting it out this spring - I guess they all just found other feeders. Guess that'll teach me.

fiwa said...

Good for you for getting help. It takes a big person to admit they need it. I hope it works out for you guys.


Mo said...

I'm proud of you. That is a big step.

I wish I was a non napper but woman, I nap and love every minute of it!

Your day sounds wonderful. My day? Spent behind the computer. Working. Doing expense reports. Analysis.

Wanna switch?

Martha said...

Everyone could use a little therapy! It sounds like you liked the counselor, which is good. It's never easy spilling one's heart out to a complete stranger. Honestly, though, admitting that help is needed is usually more than half the battle. I really hope things go smoothly for you and your daughter.

Golden To Silver Val said...

My grandmother who lived to age 94 always took a nap every afternoon. She said it rejuvenates you and I think she's right. My problem has always been....getting to take one. Now that I'm semi-retired, I do get one in every now and then....or at least TRY to. Ever notice how the phone won't ring unless you lay down to take a nap? Just the rain and the reading make your day sound relaxing though.

Anonymous said...

I went to see a therapist because I too thought my parenting skills could use some improvement. My parenting style was based on my upbringing, my temperment, & my intuition, and frankly, it just wasn't in sync with my children, especially my daughter.

That was the best move I ever made. I came away with a lot more insight into myself and realized that I had a lot of 'rules for my life' that didn't work for my kids (remember, house rules are different than life rules!). The same therapist counseled my daughter too and we had no problems there; she was very careful not to betray confidences.

Also, thanks for the fan on the porch idea - we use one all the time now and spend a lot more time out there. Keeps those bugs away! MIME

kristi said...

I hope things get better for you. I love reading your blog and how you take time to enjoy the simple things. That is what life is all about.

SOUL said...

i love hummingbirds too.
i don't ever see any around here. do they only come if you have feeders? does that sound like a really really stupid question???

for a person who loves nature so much-- you sure would think i'm just dumb as a rock.

anyhow-- i hope you have a peaceful evening.

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